Ressentiment – A Warning to Me & Other College Football Crazies

res·sen·ti·ment – n. – A generalized feeling of resentment and often hostility harbored by one individual or group against another, especially chronically and with no means of direct expression.
This is a tough week for me. On one hand I’m grateful for the football victory against my arch enemy the University of Pittsburgh (known as Pitt – as in the pit of hell or the pit you get in your stomach when you think of them). But rivalries in and of themselves aren’t wrong. Where I get into trouble is not simply wanting to beat Pitt, but wanting Pitt to lose every other game they play. I lived in Tallahassee, Florida for nearly fifteen years, and my best friends (most Florida State Seminoles) have the same root issue regarding the Florida Gators. Their saying is that they’re cheering for Florida State and whoever is playing the Gators.
My dad is quite the wordsmith – probably where I get my love for language and speech and probably why my son does, too. Its genetics and nurture at their finest. Many years ago my dad – who is a crossword puzzle addict – introduced me to a linguistic distinction that makes me uncomfortable. While resentment and ressentiment are similar words, they’re not to be confused. While resentment is a feeling of frustration directed at a perceived source, it doesn’t speak to the special relationship between a sense of inferiority and the creation of morality.
That’s what is cooking in me when I think about the upcoming game between Cincinnati and Pitt. I just want Pitt to lose. It is a particularly evil compulsion and I hate it when my dad’s words start haunting me. Particularly in the afterglow of a win in the Backyard Brawl.
My dad used this description: if a child doesn’t want a toy, but takes it just so another child can’t have it…that is ressentiment. And it is clearly not something that would be reconcilable with the way Jesus calls his followers to live.
43“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ 44But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? 47And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? 48Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” – Matthew 5:43-48
Sorry to be bad cop, my FSU-UF friends (not to mention my WVU comrades). Sometimes the truth has to be delivered in the manner that a safety jars a wide receiver on a crossing route. Let’s just hope the slot receiver is from Pitt.
